I came across something yesterday that made me raise my eyebrow. It was something kind of annoying if you ask me. The way you treat people reflect the kind of person you are. If you are going to treat people like crap, you too shall be treated like crap. I believe in fairness, and respect. Even though we may resent a person for certain reasons, we don't need to call them out for every little flaw that they have, especially if they are a friend. Friendships are key in moving in life, and if you want to burn bridges in friendships go ahead and do it. Connections lost will be the price that you have to pay.
What I saw was a note from a facebook page passed along to me via a friend. This note was rather disturbing, they said they were offended by it even though they were directly not named. The contents of this note was the write calling out all their friends for not supporting them. Meanwhile this person has no ground to stand on. Not once have they supported their own friends. This person chooses to neglect the needs of other when asked, and as karma would prevail this person receives nothing in return. Still the complaints continue.
This kind of behavior is really offensive. When things don't go your way, what right do you have to blame it on other people. When all your problems are caused by yourself, accept the blame and improve yourself. As of right now, you have no redeemable factors. I will never step on the toes of a friend like this person has in order for a personal gain. I rather climb somewhere with someone than alone. I believe that with someone by your side you really can do what ever you want. Back-up is a great feeling.
Another subject this person brought up was, lack of support for their band. When I was in a band, I pushed really hard to get my friends to come out to a show. Most didn't, and I really didn't mind. To me they just might have not found the music interesting, and may not have been entertained by it, so they choose other things to do with their money. Local shows are way too expensive for what they are. In all reality I don't want to waste $20 bucks to see a local band. Everything is out in Tempe, which is 26+ miles from my house. So figure gas, plus a ticket.
A local show doesn't really look good if you have only friends at it. It's looks good to you that there's people there, and okay, you brought 20 friends. That doesn't mean that people will stay to see you. Most local shows people leave after the band they want to see is done. There is no scene out here. Bringing 20 may sound like a big number to a show, but that is a very poor outing in all reality. Promoters want 40-50 to make sure that the venue is pleased (alcohol sales, vending sales), and also so they can make a buck. When all of their are your friends it is very noticeable. They tend to look disinterested and bland. Especially if they are there just to be there and haven't really found a liking in your music.
It is really this simple. There is no reason to bombast your friends for not supporting you when you don't support them. It is sad that you do that, this isn't the first time either. I know how your relationships have gone, and you treat them like shit, which is wrong. Eventually you will have burnt every bridge, and there will be no way back.
What I suggest this person does is, wake up and get their life together. Dropping out of college, and sitting home smoking weed all day is no way to live. This person is really a sad individual, and I know if they read this they will have stuff to say about me. So be it. Let them have their say. I know I am better than them, and this person does not deserve the little loyalty that they have received through the years.-SS
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